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Something Old; Something New…..

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On Twitter today, a very wise man posted the following quote:

“One of the most striking things about the Wright brothers’ story is how many haters they had. Apparently they come with anything new” (Paul Graham via @paulg).

What a deep statement to make. As an example,  check out at all the new sports they have in the Olympics this year; do you wonder how much derision the athletes had to deal with when they first approached the Olympic Committee when they wanted to have, say, Snowboarding Cross included in 2006? Think of the first time snowboarders wanted to be included in the Olympic Games to begin with at all; I wonder how hard a time the die-hard skiiers gave the boarders until finally the Boarders were able to participate…and perhaps the Boarders got a hard time after that. Change is hard for everyone, especially when time-honored traditions are involved.

Yet the athletes persisted, and Snowboarding remains one of the most popular events in the Olympics. Hard core determination, dare we say stubbornness, was necessary to truly get some recognition for the “new thing” to be a recognized and accepted sport.  These words are important when we think about changing something that is rigidly held in tradition and difficult to change: persistence, determination, identification of a specific goal, recognition of that goal and eventual acceptance. This is the pattern necessary for that kind of change.

 How about you? Do you have personal goals which are troubling you or you are doing well at achieving? Sound off and let us know!

Very best to you and your Goals.

Photo credit: Roup14 (Deviant Art)

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Emotional Vampires

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Emotional Vampires

I have recently been reading the book “Emotional Vampires” and I wanted to share some of the most interesting concepts which I have found relevant in everyday work life.

One of my Resolutions was to find a better work/home/life balance. To be better organized. To make my lists and have them done. To work out at least 4 times a week, eat properly and drink all my water. We are two weeks into 2014, and it has been quite the struggle. What I didn’t realize was I had to identify the things (and people!) who were literally sucking me dry emotionally, mentally and even in my spirit. All of which combined to make me sluggish, disorganized, frantic and periodically panicked as I hurriedly finished something which I had forgotten to do earlier.

Apparently there are 5 identified such “Emotional Vampires”. The Antisocial, the Histrionic, the Narcissist, the Micromanaging/Ultra controller, and the Paranoid. We will get into each one in further blog posts, but the most important thing to me, today, was the beginning.

How on earth do you recognize such a person for what they are? And what the heck do you do with them when they have you in a spell of confusion and disorganization, but you haven’t realized it until this moment? Will it be too late when you do realize it?

Today let us just go through the quick characteristics of such a person.

1. The person seems to have it all together when you first meet them and get to know them; but over time, you realize they are a perfect mess, and bonus, you are the one suddenly responsible for fixing their every problem and crisis.

2. They present you with inconsistent displays of brilliant charm, making you forget for a small moment the torment they put you through the rest of the time.

3. Promises they make tend to have a 24-hour shelf life.

4. They can often be professional back-stabbers whose constant and spiteful games constantly drain you dry.

5. They are “stars” who keep you with them while you are useful; but when you no longer have a use for them, they kick you to the side of the curb and find another “host”.

6. They are persons with authority who teach or lecture about equal and safe treatment; but their actions and personal code of conduct are completely opposite of their words.

7. They are loving one moment, cold and distant the next, without rhyme or reason, which always seems to have them controlling their environment at any given time.

Next time…..Anti-social Emotional Vampires and how to recognize if you are under their spell.

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